Would you choose your girlfriend over "sandwiches"?

What you need to know:
-girl: straight-A student.
-boy: ... not the smartest.
-girl: hates drugs
-boy: loves weed.
-girl and boy have been friends and have liked each other for six years.
-they want to be together, but his addiction is hindering a great relationship.

should girl give up?

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  • 3

    If he completely blows you off just to smoke (after you've already made plans) than he's an idiot and doesn't deserve you.

    • gemie89
    • February 8, 2011, 11:52 am
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    That's actually the trouble i'm having. I just sneak it and promise I'll keep it to a minimum. Weed doesn't do anything to you. It's not like one day you're gonna ask him to chill or something and he's gonna say he's busy smoking weed. It's a retarded descision.

    he actually did that to me.
    - bleedingxmascara February 9, 2011, 6:36 am
    Well that's bullshit. But you can either accept it, or talk to him about it.
    - papereeno February 9, 2011, 7:48 am
    I decided to just give him some time to think. like, I don't want him to feel like he HAS to choose between me and his "best friend". I don't mind that he does it. I just want him to spend some time with me while he's sober, so he can realize that I love him and care about him and that I don't want his life goin to waste because he won't stop smoking.
    - bleedingxmascara February 10, 2011, 6:27 am
    Well you are better then me.
    - papereeno February 10, 2011, 8:15 am
    how so?
    - bleedingxmascara February 11, 2011, 6:31 am
    I would've left someone who chose weed over me.
    - papereeno February 11, 2011, 7:54 am
    I just want to give him a chance... it's been 6 years and I think he deserves it.
    - bleedingxmascara February 14, 2011, 6:53 am
    Let him do it as a once in a while kind of thing. it's not right.
    - papereeno February 14, 2011, 6:56 am
    I'm letting him decide what's more important. I want him to be happy and I'll support whatever decision he makes.
    - bleedingxmascara February 21, 2011, 6:46 am
    I like you. Thats why im telling you thats retarded. How in the hell are you gonna support smoking pot? It's amazing but its stupid to fucking support that. It's not a wise desiscion that'll get him through his life or a fucking investment. Goddamn
    - papereeno February 21, 2011, 8:45 am
    how can I make him see that?
    - bleedingxmascara February 22, 2011, 6:20 am
    Just yesterday my GF gave me an ultimatum. Smoking or her. I picked her. You just have to believe that he'll pick you and not the other.
    - papereeno February 22, 2011, 11:36 am
    he did, last night <3
    - bleedingxmascara February 23, 2011, 6:52 am
    There you go.
    - papereeno February 23, 2011, 11:00 am
    it was really unexpected though.
    - bleedingxmascara February 25, 2011, 6:14 am
    Expect the unexpected.
    - papereeno February 25, 2011, 10:33 am
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    leave the dude

    • alucard
    • February 8, 2011, 2:06 pm
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    Compromise. If she can't be bothered to accept his habits then she isn't worth it.

    • Disco
    • February 8, 2011, 6:54 am
    I accept them, because I know it makes him happy. I'm not completely heartless. But all I want is for him to be sober when we spend time together.
    - bleedingxmascara February 9, 2011, 6:38 am
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    Hmm well as you stated previously his addiction is hindering a great relationship if i was said female and he has been doing weed for quite some tome and has still been unable to select between you or his beloved weed (apparently its taken him six years thus far)...First give him that ultimatum basically its me or the weed if that doesn't immediately sober him up and make him have that immediate moment of realization about yalls relationship or if he shows that hesitation in his thought process of you or weed leave him because if he hesitates you may get together but first time weed is introduced he will most likely blow you off and hurt you (talking from semi-personal experience and job related experiences)

    terrible advice. an ultimatum between something and someone is retarded. that works if he was seeing another woman or something. but not something like that. think of a guy that is addicted to video games, should you dump him? or join him... enjoy something together.

    he will choose weed in the end if you make the choice that black and white. and if he chooses you... he'll still smoke with his friends. dont do that to yourself.

    either give weed a chance. see WHY he likes it so much... or find someone you have more in common with.
    - c8r15 February 8, 2011, 11:27 am
    see, I don't want him to stop completely because I want him to be happy. I just want him to not be high when I see him, because I don't get to be with him often.
    - bleedingxmascara February 9, 2011, 6:35 am
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    if youre going to criticize it. try it, then criticize it. if you would never ever smoke weed. give up or wait for him to come around.

    its not about him choosing between you and weed. like he thinks weed is more important or anything, its something he really likes to do, you want him to stop... imagine if he told you to quit bacon FOREVER. its not about "whats more important? me? or bacon" ... its about "wtf should i quit, accept me for who i am"

    if you can't... leave. dont build a house on wet sand.

    • c8r15
    • February 8, 2011, 11:22 am
    I kinda agree with you. Any ultimamtum is a bad idea. You can ask him to cut back a little, but asking him to give up something he obviously enjoys, just for you, is a little selfish.

    Don't love someone for what you think you could MAKE them into, love them for who they are.

    And even if the person you are interested in does give up something they love, [i[just for you[/i], they will most likely resent you for it in the long run.
    - drakengard85 February 8, 2011, 12:15 pm
    I honestly don't mind that he does it. but he said, [sic] "I'm always high". I asked him for one day... just one day off from it and he hesitated. like, he didn't even answer. he just changed the subject. He can do it with his friends and whatever, but I only get to see him on weekends. I want the time that we get to spend together to be meaningful and I know that makes me sound really stupid, but all I'm asking for is one day and he made it seem like I'm not worth it.
    - bleedingxmascara February 9, 2011, 6:33 am
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    I'm gonna say that he probably isn't worth the time if its weed that messing it up. If he truly likes you just ask him to cut back a bit. To be honest the guy sounds like a friggen idiot so you should lose him anyway.

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    Well if you didn't have a girlfriend who would make you a sandwich in the first place?

    "sandwiches" is slang for weed -________-
    - bleedingxmascara February 11, 2011, 6:31 am
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    If his problem botheres you, confront him about it. Say that you arn't comfortable with it, if he doesn't stop then you should leave him because he's choosing drugs over you. If he does stop, stay with him, because he's choosing you over drugs.

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    Weed isnt addictive..... ¬_¬

    • Goober
    • February 22, 2011, 7:50 am
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    Weed foo! HAHAHAHAHAHA! jk my girls hot.

  • 0

    just smoke some weed with him and stfu. he'll do anything after that

    I'm not gonna lie, weed is on my to-do list.
    - bleedingxmascara February 9, 2011, 6:34 am
    if thats the only problem, then it shouldn't really be a problem or you. As long as you aren't snorting shit or anything like that its not really a bad thing. just need a little more motivation to do things.
    - dirtmigert420 March 10, 2011, 11:07 am
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