I really need some help... /_/

Ok so for a while my girlfriend has been saying that she isn't good enough for me and i deserve better, but today it got worse way worse... now i love her with all my heart and iv'e tried everything that i can think of and no matter what i say or do she says she doesn't think so...

she wrote me this today and this is exactly as she wrote it

"I know i you really don't like letter/notes but i dunno...I felt like writing you one. I know iv'e said said it before and i'll say it again. Even though i'm in that mood where i try and convince you to do better and so on. I want you to go find someone who isn't bi-polar, depressed, who won't hug there friends more than you, has anger issues, who does't get easily upset, someone who can look you in the eye and tell you i love you, who actually likes the way they look, some one who dresses nice, someone that will talk about whats wrong without the feeling of being hit (side note: idk where she gets that from idk if her ex did that but ive never hit her)I want you to find someone that isn't me...i can't have these fellings that i just wrote about. I can't have the feelings of being heart broken everyday cause of it anymore. I just can't. I have a felling that i have to protect myself from getting hurt...i'm sorry i just had to write it out, it made me feel a little better...but most of akk i have this feeling of not deserving to be loved and just die alone.... i'm sorry....i'll stop...."

no like i said i love her wit all my heart, ive never hit her, i do everything for her, i spend what time i can with her, i spend what money i have on her, and i say the sweetest things to her to make her feel better or prove that i can't do better than her.. i just dont know what to do anymore...if she leaves me i will have nothing left in this world to live for, it could very well be the end of me.

EDIT: we figured it out now

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    if it were me... girl+emotional baggage= leave her ass. but im kind of a dickhead and feelings are for pussies.

    i am a rather sensitive guy
    - kermit6427 March 22, 2012, 1:45 pm
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    see huni
    this post is not enough for me to offer help
    but i can tell you something.. she seems to be too depressed and unhappy
    maybe if you guys try a break and then she notices how more unhappy she is without you..?
    is it worth it kermit? all the effort you go through to cheer her up?
    if so.. then keep puting effort into it while knowing it will only get harder
    if not then bite the bullet
    this is very hard.. i know but it seems like she has stopped loving you
    these words are not coming only from her problems.. make sure she still has real and strong feelings for you
    i am blabbering :S sorry
    i can tell you one one thing this reminds me off
    your loved one is like a bird, if you love them then let them go
    if they come back then they are yours forever
    i am not sure if this is the right way of saying it
    but you get the picture.. sorry if anything i said hurt your feelings but this comes from experience and a girls percpective

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    have you had sex? If not now might be the best time, sex can be the ultimate show of affection because of the emotional and physical connections that happen with it. it's worked for me in the past and it will probably work for you but take it for what you want.

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    ok if you REALLY have feelings for her, i would say you have to try your best to show how much you dont care that she's sad. Idk, take her to an amusement park? amuse her..? do you know what she laughs at?

    It just seems that she's just depressed as shit. another remedy is that time heals all wounds. dont act now and wait it out. see if her condition gets worse. No one is always depressed. there has to be SOMETHING out there that makes someone happy. you have to find what that thing is.

    • Mizuno
    • March 22, 2012, 1:50 pm
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    this kinda depends on how old you are also it sounds like she's wants you to break up with her because she's not feeling it but then again i don't know her. trust me i was in the same place just over a year ago. moving on sucks at first but it's normally for the best. you can do it the only advise i have for you is that if you do break up don't try and stay friends. cut her out of your life it'll take sometime but you will move on to someone who deserves your love. thats what i did (though i had to learn the hard way and so i still don't like that dumb bitch anymore after what she pulled) i've found an amazing girl who i know i can trust and won't pull the same shit that the emotional ones will. if you have to make sure to end it on your terms it makes it a hell of a lot easier bro.

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    How fuckin old are you two??

    we are 16
    - kermit6427 March 22, 2012, 5:47 pm
    Can you tell me simply what love is?
    - Inedibleedible March 22, 2012, 7:15 pm
    .... dude trust me you'll move on and she's acting like that cause she's a teen and wants to hate the world don't go over board on this
    - 24paperwings March 22, 2012, 8:26 pm
    actually i think i figured it out, she has a low self esteem due to her old school, im gonna try and work on her with that and see what happens
    - kermit6427 March 22, 2012, 11:36 pm
    to me love is being happy with another person, being there for them when you need them, lift them up and put them back on solid ground, love is being happy with who you are with and most of all happy with your self for being with that person
    - kermit6427 March 22, 2012, 11:38 pm
    i've lived almost 17 years without a girlfriend. several very close female friends but not a girlfriend. seriously, 16 years is no age to get massively depressed over this, there really isn't anything good that can come from it. Just calm down, and i'll tell you that you have plenty left to live for. Try and keep with her, do your best but in the end, if she goes, she goes. I can't really believe i'm saying this but dude, seriously, grow up. There is so much else in this world.
    - Bekenel March 23, 2012, 3:13 am
    Bro, I said simply.
    Don't be frettin over this.
    Her pity is your burden if you let it be.
    This is classic HS drama(no offense to either of you)
    Simply though, love is not the condition in which someone's happiness is vital to yours.
    That's dependency.
    Love is the condition in which mutuality is more focused upon than absolutely anything else.
    Think about that; and if you like, tell me what you think it means.
    - Inedibleedible March 23, 2012, 7:32 pm
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    Why don't you write her a letter? You have talked about it here and maybe she will understand your feelings better when written in black and white, maybe leave it somewhere obvious, with a small present?

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    Sounds like a big waste of time and money. I'd break it off, especially at 16. Kind of agree with Captin. Bi-polar, anger issues, easily upset, depressed, not comfortable with themselves, all red flags.

    i see you got your IQ back XD
    can you really just tell a 16 year old to leave his gf?
    atleast make it a little nicer!
    - MissRandom March 23, 2012, 7:24 pm
    Yesh, my IQ is back :). And I think I can...since I just did. :P 16 isn't that young... I was smart enough to leave crazy gfs at 16 lol, and I had a few :D
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 1:46 am
    i did not mean he is not smart enough or YOUNG
    what i meant was that he is emotionally attached and a sensative teen and you should talk to him as so :S
    you can say exactly what you said but in a more sensitive way?
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 3:47 am
    Like how? =o I guess I'm just not very sensitive =|
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 5:19 am
    well.. you can say that maybe its for the best
    and that you are still young and your entire life has not begun yet
    you can not hang on to something that is not yours
    you must be brave and do what is right for the both of you
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 5:33 am
    hmm... but that seems like it could mean either break up or stay together, and since he's in love with her I'm almost positive he'd choose stay together?
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 5:42 am
    it's his choice
    he's asking for advice
    you know that no matter what you say.. he Will do what he Want to do.. right?
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 5:43 am
    Yes, I'm just telling him what I'd do if it was me :p
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 5:48 am
    yup i noticed
    what's your horoscope?
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 5:49 am
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 5:55 am
    you are supposed to be much more sensitive! lol
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 5:57 am
    lol my bad XD what's your sign?
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 6:00 am
    i'm a libra
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 6:04 am
    Hmm..you actually fit your sign pretty well :P lol at least from what I can tell.
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 6:06 am
    i do and i dun like that XD
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 6:08 am
    What's not to like about being Libra? :p It sounds like a very noble sign :) and we rly need like..an instant messenger or something on sharenator haha kinda getting off topic here :p
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 6:11 am
    yea.. i totally agree XD
    we are sociallizing on a poor guy's post :(
    what i dont like is that we are too emotional and gullible
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 6:16 am
    Well, no one's perfect. Except Kim Jong-il. You know he invented the hamburger? ;)
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 6:22 am
    lol.. what?
    no i did not know that XD
    how random
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 6:23 am
    Lol. Kim Jong-il facts aren't true, but things he told the north korean people. Google it. Anyways, you don't seem too emotional to me :)
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 6:26 am
    lol.. how can you tell like this
    i am in fact very emotional and sensitive
    a little over the average or acceptable level XD

    i thought you were playing on my gullible side when you said that fact XD
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 6:28 am
    No no no! I say that because of the way you handle criticism on here I just didn't picture you as more emotional or sensitive than normal... I guess you could be different in real life though :p
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 4:07 pm
    i don't think i'm an idiot though XD being emotional is something and handling people over the internet is something else
    i am actually different in real life
    i am not this nice XD because here people are different (as in different societies, backgrounds, etc)
    i am very sensative but i rarely (closer to never) show it
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 4:10 pm
    I didn't call you an idiot? :s People here are not always very easy to deal with either... :p
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 4:32 pm
    i know you didn't... people who get caught up emotionally with the internet are just idiots?
    that's rude :S wow i am rude :S
    i just mean i am mature enough to handle the internet :P
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 4:34 pm
    Oh..kk :) Now look who's the rude one :p haha jk.
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 4:46 pm
    you will be surprized if you ever saw me deal with people in real life XD
    i get very rude to people who deserve it XD
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 4:47 pm
    And there are a lot of people who deserve it, in my experience. XD
    - casper667 March 24, 2012, 4:53 pm
    - MissRandom March 24, 2012, 4:54 pm
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    Sounds like she has a severe case of being a teenager. Luckily, it's treatable with time.

    • Ertrov
    • March 24, 2012, 1:51 am
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    Jill would never leave me.

    i can't believe you just made that joke!
    and i can't believe it went unoticed!
    at first m like why is he showing off his gf when this guy is hurt and needs help
    and them m like owhhhh now i get it
    but seriously.. you should accompany that with some advice
    he needs it.. m not sure how old you are.. but when i was 16.. i wish i had a bunch of people i can ask for help and advice :)
    - MissRandom March 23, 2012, 6:53 pm
    i'm 16 like him self and i'm also strong believer that having a 'girl friend' at this age is pointless. I'm enjoying my life, have friends etc.. so everything seems fine to me. so I'd be pointless at giving advice
    - GangsterMonkey March 23, 2012, 6:56 pm
    i agree with you
    but he already has a girlfriend and he is attached to her
    it's hard for him :) i wish people realized what love is and how beautiful it is and what sacrifice goes into it
    - MissRandom March 23, 2012, 7:01 pm
    But at 16.. can you really now what it is?
    - GangsterMonkey March 23, 2012, 7:05 pm
    this is exactly what i mean
    at 16 it's just emotional attachment and other stuff
    but that does not make what he is going through any easier
    because to him.. at this age.. this is what he knows about love
    this is as far as he can get with this emotion..
    - MissRandom March 23, 2012, 7:18 pm
    Hhhmm True!
    Also Look at my MS Paint post ;)
    - GangsterMonkey March 23, 2012, 7:30 pm
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    My friend was like this and she tried to kill herself, so for all you guys saying she's just being teenager, you're wrong. She probably has some sort of mental disorder and probably needs some help from a psychiatrist and some anti-depressant pills.

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