I need help!

Ok Sharenator, i need your help. The homecoming dance is in a couple of weeks, and i need help deciding on which girl to ask.

The first girl is one of my best friends, I've known her since i was 5, and we hang out alot. A while back i asked her to be my gf, and she left me in the friend zone (yes, the dreaded friend zone). She has a great sense of humor and is kinda goth. She told me the other day about a bunch of dudes asking her to the dance and her saying no. I'm not sure if that means she wants me to ask her, or that she's saying she has a high standard or something.

The second girl is one of my friends. I don't hang out with her much, but she is my great aunts, friends, daughter (not related). So she comes to alot of family functions and stuff. Apparently, she told my great aunt that if i asked her, then she would definetly say yes. She is a quiet, sensitive, shy girl.And she laughs at all my jokes no matter how not funny or corny.

I feel if i choose the first one, then i would really hurt the second one. But if i chose the second one, then i wouldn't hang out with the first one anymore.

Please help me older dudes with knowledge, or chicks that understand what other chicks are trying to say!

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  • 5

    Ask the second one, stay friends with the first. Nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite gender.

    • Ertrov
    • September 21, 2011, 5:57 pm
    straight up dating friends is a baaaaaaad idea
    - 24paperwings September 22, 2011, 8:48 am
    Depends. I started dating my friend and now we've been together for 4 years.
    - Ertrov September 22, 2011, 11:31 am
    there are many exceptions but the vast majority don't work out. i made that mistake myself. i feel like it is more likely to happen to younger people in high school and college but past that it is more likely to work out.
    - 24paperwings September 22, 2011, 12:21 pm
    We were in high school lol.
    - Ertrov September 22, 2011, 12:43 pm
    like i said there are exceptions
    - 24paperwings September 22, 2011, 1:14 pm
  • 5

    You should go with number 2 most def

    151436bdad86877878ab0f1352ef7b41 - i need help!

  • 4

    thank you all for your awesome advice! +1s for everybody!

    +1 ALL the comments! __O-O/
    - Ertrov September 23, 2011, 9:30 pm
  • 3

    Its the homecoming dance. Have some fun. Trust me... You'll miss highschool.... Its only been a few years and I already miss it.

    Ask the second one. She obviously likes you. Again, its a dance, not a date. Have fun. Besides, if you've been friend zoned, then the first one is still going to be in your life.

    As for what you said about her not hanging out with you... You said yourself she friend zoned you. So, if she doesn't hang out with you after you ask the second one, then she wasn't your friend to begin with I suppose.

    Or she's not sure if she really wants to friend zone him. That complicates things...
    - Ertrov September 22, 2011, 7:35 pm
  • 3

    Well Sharenators, the results are in, and the second one said yes! im so excited!

  • 2

    Honestly if you've been friend zoned there is little to nothing you could do to pull a relationship from that. Go with the shy girl it would probably make her whole year if you asked her (seeing that she has a crush on you). You may not want to admit this but friend zone is almost always permanent...

    • gemie89
    • September 21, 2011, 5:44 pm
    i'm not sure if it makes a difference, but it was 4 months ago, and it was over the phone. it probably doesn't, but wateva
    - Fuzzyelvis2 September 21, 2011, 5:51 pm
    Just remember Bros b4 Hoes that goes for Shebros too.
    - gemie89 September 21, 2011, 5:54 pm
    true dat
    - Fuzzyelvis2 September 21, 2011, 5:55 pm
  • 2

    I agree bro...
    You should ask girl number 2!!!

    • adduco
    • September 22, 2011, 3:37 am
  • 2

    go for girl number 2 it is a bad idea to date a friend especially at a young age because more than likely you will break up. then you lose a friend. remember asking her to the dance doesn't normally count as you asking her out so if you go together and decide you don't want her then you don't have to keep seeing her. if you're looking to date the girl ask her out on a real date.

  • 2

    you are friend zoned with the first one so it's best to try and stay friends with her as she can be one of your greatest resources in a pinch, go with the second girl since you're from what it sounds like a sure thing and since she already knows your family that skips most of the awkward moments and you can get better details as to her likes and dislikes.

  • 2

    Follow the voice in the back of your head, no matter what anyone says, confidence is everything, a girl will notice you if you man up and ask either of them, if they say no, so what, you will have kept the confidence for the rest of your life. Nothing bad can happen :)

    My therapist said to stop following the voice in the back of my head. I don't see why, I mean the voice is great. He helps show me which people have candy inside so I can know to cut them open and, um.... you know what, forget I mentioned it.
    - Ertrov September 23, 2011, 9:29 pm
    - miketehpope September 24, 2011, 6:34 am
  • 2

    the second one. being in the friend zone isn't that bad. if she gets really mad you went to the dance with someone else then it might be bad

  • 2

    Go for the second one she has already decided that she wants to go with you even though she is shy she has shown some initiative by telling your aunt that she would like to go with you so you should respect that. Plus dating a close friend is a big risk and that shouldnt done unless you are ready for anything to happen. Personally I think shy girls are cuter just saying either way good luck bro!

  • 1

    Which one has bigger boobs?

    • TryThat
    • September 22, 2011, 12:25 pm
    lol the first one
    - Fuzzyelvis2 September 22, 2011, 7:10 pm
    First one it is then!
    - TryThat September 22, 2011, 7:18 pm
  • 1

    At least your date isnt moving an hour away ): but def the 2nd

    I know how that feels. My gf lives an hour away from me.
    - Ertrov September 23, 2011, 9:27 pm
  • 1

    Get with girl #2. Then when you get bored, ditch her and go for #1.
    After all, you like both, right? (:

  • -3

    didnt read
    fuck her

    • Vans
    • September 22, 2011, 11:49 am
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