I need a wee bit of advice...

Hey guys and gals! so lets get to the point, I am very shy and I greatly fear rejection how is the best to ask a nice girl to a dance? I only ask because I really don't like making the first move and I've not exactly been a Casanova at our school...or at all...(I'm 17 -.-)

Thanks! :)

  • gemie89
  • January 20, 2011, 7:17 pm
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    so heres what you do
    first go out and buy a rose
    second buy a suit. suits are cool exhibit A
    barney - i need a wee bit of advice...

    third put the rose in your mouth an sashay on over
    fourth now this is very important you must dangle your wangle in front of her to lure her towards you
    fifth take her hand and with the rose in your mouth lick her face
    six balance a spoon on your nose and lick your ears while pulling your arms into your chest
    if this doesn't work then nothing will!

    sorry buddy idk what else to tell you sometimes you just have to go for it.

    that is like destined to fail
    - castlewarsisawsome January 20, 2011, 7:44 pm
    of course it is! its a joke. The only way to get a girl to dance with you is to ask you just need to talk to her and be friendly.
    - 24paperwings January 20, 2011, 7:47 pm
    lol i feel like captin obvious
    - castlewarsisawsome January 20, 2011, 7:53 pm
    "Dangle your wangle" Priceless.
    - TexBex January 21, 2011, 4:13 am
    NPH FTW!!!!
    - gemie89 January 21, 2011, 10:53 am
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    just ask her normally with nothing fancy, and if she says no the next obvious move is rape.

    hope that helps

    - Kermie January 21, 2011, 9:25 am
    Where do I bury the body?!?
    - gemie89 January 21, 2011, 10:51 am
    I can take care of it.. for a small fee
    - DarkicoN13 January 21, 2011, 6:18 pm
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    Sorry no advice for you man, girls are some of the most complex creatures ever made.

    Yes they are. I'm sort of hung up on a girl that I'm best friends with. Even though I know that she already has a boyfriend and that I will never get to call her mine. I don't know why, but I can't get her out of my head. And if I told her that I liked her, etc. I couldn't be friends with her. So I have to throw aside my feelings just to be friends with her. I know that there's no chance of her ever breaking up with her current boyfriend, because she loves him and vice versa. They've been going out for a year even though he's cheated on her twice. But I guess that's life and love for you.
    - XxDaminalsxX January 21, 2011, 4:26 am
    Damn sorry to hear that.
    - DarkicoN13 January 21, 2011, 6:11 am
    Yeah, it's a bitch. But I suppose I'll have to settle for less.
    - XxDaminalsxX January 21, 2011, 6:14 am
    get him to cheat on her again...be the one she comes crying to and when she says why do i always fall for the jerks...thats when you show her your not the jerk be nice and all then ask her out because i know girls break up with guys when they cheat its a cycle then when u have her eating out of your hand find a new target and repeat become a playa then you wont have to worry about feelings...
    - shadow83 January 21, 2011, 6:13 pm
    I'm not going to destroy her relationship for my own personal benefit. She's happy with him, and if that means that I just have to stand by and watch, oh well. I'll eventually learn to move on. Also there's plenty of other guys/girls that would be next in line. If dating her had a waiting line, I'd be dead last. It doesn't help when her ex is back in town (whom she broke up with because he was moving).
    - XxDaminalsxX January 22, 2011, 8:23 am
    buy hookers theyre cheaper in the long run.:)
    - shadow83 February 4, 2011, 1:29 am
    Perhaps, but you gotta worry about getting an STD.
    - XxDaminalsxX February 4, 2011, 3:23 am
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    • Pharmon
    • January 21, 2011, 5:42 pm
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    and if your are ugly then hope to god you are rich.
    - triclebickle March 6, 2011, 8:54 pm
  • 2

    ok here is what i would do if the dance is a far ways away hug her everyday before you leave school. if its comeing up soon ask her friends if she likes you. i know it sounds a bit sad but it's your only shot. the first one might not work cause where i live is the only place were we actually hug each other with out it meaning anything

    She doesn't need to like you. People go as friends all the time. Don't get hung up on asking a girl to the dance because she likes you. Just bring a friend or someone you get long with.
    - 24paperwings January 20, 2011, 7:56 pm
    well well then he should just ask her like a man
    - castlewarsisawsome January 20, 2011, 8:00 pm
    Exactly! It doesn't need to be a planned out thing. Just find out if she's going with someone else. If not then ask her. She has one of two answers to give a yes or a no. be prepared for either one. the most important thing is to be confident. NOT COCKY! As long as she isn't a bitch and likes you as a friend then she will probably say yes.
    - 24paperwings January 20, 2011, 8:05 pm
    well i hope he just read what you typed
    - castlewarsisawsome January 20, 2011, 8:12 pm
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    well the most you can do is lather rinse and repeat and in other words ask and if she says no find another girl and so on.

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    If you know she is fond of you (i'e. willing to speak to you, make her laugh maybe) then just go straight up and ask her. Honestly, it sounds scary but it seriously nearly always works. Walk up to her and just ask her.

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    go up to her and say "hey, do you want to go to the dance?"

    if she says yes; she most likely likes you. if she likes you, she'll say yes nomatter how you ask her. just dont seem desperate.

    if she says no, you never had a chance to begin with, ask someone else.

    • c8r15
    • January 21, 2011, 3:48 am
  • 2

    Just be an adolescent male and ask her if she would like to go to the dance with you. If she says no, oh well...i really don't know what else to say as girls are very weird and will do what they can to confuse you. if she says yes your in, if no then your out.

    oh well...there are many other flavors of ice cream for you to try before you have to settle down with one type and eat it for ever.

  • 2

    you could go up to her and say something like
    Wow! you're beautiful in that dress! or You look amazing!
    then follow up with
    i was wondering if you'd like to dance with me?

    i know youre a girl... but thats terrible advice. this is reality, not "one tree hill"
    - c8r15 January 24, 2011, 10:46 am
    but we love compliments!
    and it will make us more likely to say yes :p
    - Icelandgirly January 24, 2011, 12:00 pm
    That actually is kind of effective i mean make small talk make her laugh because if you can make a girl laugh your already a good ways there
    - Reddeath195 February 4, 2011, 2:11 am
    FALSE! I hate compliments, I get really uncomfortable and cannot deal with these things. I grew up in a house full of guys, I can take insults and throw them back with force, but compliments, that's an entire different ball game...
    - SuDoku February 4, 2011, 11:38 am
    not all girls are the same but most girls at least LIKE to be complimented
    - Icelandgirly February 9, 2011, 7:35 am
    Nope, makes me waaay uncomfortable. :P
    - SuDoku February 9, 2011, 7:39 am
    as I said in the correction,MOST girls
    - Icelandgirly February 9, 2011, 7:47 am
    Alright chill your beans, woman XD
    - SuDoku February 9, 2011, 7:48 am
  • 2

    1) Flare your nostrils to alert her to your interest. It also helps if you know a dance to attract a mate. My personal favorite is the "Colbert Shuffle": 4 steps to the right, and 4 to the left, you can clap at the end of each 4 steps, but thats more for an advanced user.
    2) Remember that women (unless she's a total bitch) are usually just as nervous about getting dates as you are. Just ask in a way that shows you understand this. Direct and civil, but not overbearing or too timidly. The worst that can happen is she will say no politely.

    Of course, there is always a chance that she will say no even though she has no problem with you. She could be dating someone already, or her parents don't want her to date untill a certain age. She just may not explain all of that to you because, like I said, she is just as(if not more) nervous/embarassed as you are.

    Just keep in mind that if she does say no, it is not necessarily because of you. Don't just shut down, mumble "sorry" real quietly, and walk away while trying to keep your tears in. The very best thing to do is to stay direct and civil. Just apologise, politely remove yourself from the situation and if you see her again, don't act like nothing happened, but don't act like you bumped into each other while you were each trying to hide a body in the same spot the night before.

    OMG dude your advice is awesome and in a funny way I plan to ask her this next week...personally none of this texting/FB chat crap...
    - gemie89 January 21, 2011, 10:47 am
    Good, texting is probably the worst form of communication there is.
    - BobTheJanitor January 24, 2011, 8:18 am
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    "you want to go to the dance together"

    • hightec
    • January 21, 2011, 11:49 am
    best advice i've seen. the worst she can do is say no. if dude dosen't ask, then he really won't have a date.
    - CaptinCrunk March 6, 2011, 8:21 pm
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    Give that bitch a smiley face bitches love smiley faces

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    Start off with a joke. But don't make her think that asking her out was also a joke. I ended up going to a prom cuz my best friend called the chick i like and asked her for me. Asshole ended up dancing with her during the slow song. Once you get her stay with her during the dance...that is all

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    i walked up to a girl once and said i liked her like it was no big deal and she later told me i freaked her out because no other guy has been that calm when telling her that

    • alucard
    • January 21, 2011, 5:37 pm
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    get a huge bulge and walk up to her all confident like
    and tell her wats wat.
    if she grabs it, shes the one.

    • tacolad
    • January 21, 2011, 6:18 pm
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    oh just like you just did when you forgot to put from when you stated ...it can prevent you looking like a retard.

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    Sing this to her

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    What you need to do is ditch the xbox, ps3, stop pretending you're Rambo, or a professional footballer when playing these 'games',and meet real, actual people. Your confidence will improve, making easy talk with the girls less formidable. I have to speak in front of many people and it does'nt bother me, soon I have to speak in front of about 80-90, it's all about confidence.
    Keep your chin up and don't get too hung up on still being a virgin either, as women can read that a mile away and you'll more than likely look desperate, treat a woman like a princess, and you won't go far wrong. Hope this helps Buddy. Stu

  • -1

    lol all great advice from some two bit whack josb so heres my advice first sack the fuck up stop acting like a scared little bitch go over to her say "would you like to dance" if you get rejected dont get all emo and cry or what ever say i wasnt talking you i was talking to her and if the other girl says no then keep asking all the girls until one says yes the law of probability probly says one of them is bound to say yes

    That's about the most useless piece of advice I've seen in a long time.
    Oh, and can someone call the Punctuation Police?
    - invisiblehair January 21, 2011, 6:17 pm
    lol i know right because rape is more helpful oh and puntuation is not needed its the internet not english class so stop being an asshole for no reason its pointless alls well that ends ok so fuck you and have a nice day...:)
    - shadow83 January 21, 2011, 6:28 pm
    Grammar is useful anywhere. Especially on the internet as that will make your arguments seem better and more professional as you won't look like a five year old. Though I do give you props for the nice use of an Eminem lyric.
    - 24paperwings January 21, 2011, 9:14 pm
    Why am I not surprised that the word 'rape' popped up in your reply?
    Punctuation and grammar make it easier for other people to de-code your ranting...oh...and...it can prevent you looking like a retard.
    - invisiblehair January 22, 2011, 12:18 am
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