Gah wtf do I doooooo?

Somethings been driving me NUTS... Ive been dating a girl for 2 weeks now. Weve gotten close...but Ive noticed something. Not only is she looking for a serious relationship (im only in high school), but we dont share much in common. And by serious, i mean talking about marrying when we are 18...

Ive been talking to a girl (only as friends) and ive realized that we have SO much in common. We ended up having a 7 hour skype conversation that was no where near dying out. It ended up ending after she fell asleep at her computer lol.

The next day, my girlfriend almost broke up with me for being friends with this girl simply because she didnt like her. I told her that I wouldnt speak to her anymore if it made her happy. Now you might say im a dick for doing this, but i still text that girl. Why? Because we are in high school, and in high school, friends last longer than girls...

Now its gotten to the point where Im lost... I have feelings for my girlfriend, but my feelings are leaning towards this girl that I only call a friend.

Me and my girlfriend shared our first kiss today, and I didnt feel that "momentous" feeling that you achieve when you are in love... Which is leaving me with a puzzling and stressful question:

Stay with my girlfriend when I get the feeling its not lasting


Leave her (respectfully) and slowly gain a relationship with this other girl?

-Before you say something like "dont dump her because the other girl might not like you back", I can respond with, yes. She does.

Thanks lol...

EDIT- I left her and I decided to roll it alone for a while. As of now, I have a date with girl #2 next week. Thanks for the advice fellow sharenators!

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  • 6

    She definitely sounds wayyy too controlling for someone who has only been dating you for two weeks...regardless of whether or not another girl is in the picture you should probably get out. The fact that there is another girl in the picture makes it a bonus! In my opinion, you should date someone who you share a lot of interests with and who could be your best of both worlds if ya know what I mean. Of course, sometimes I get in trouble with my girl because I start acting too buddy buddy with her. Then I'm like but it's only because you're my best friend! "awwwwwww baby!!!" ensues. Works every time =) You should be with someone who likes you for you and is comfortable with giving you a little freedom to be your own person (as long as you don't give her a reason to not trust you with that with doing your own thing once in a while).

    tl;dr - dump the girl, have sex with your best friend


    basically what i was thinking she's way to controlling and marriage at this age would be a not so good idea...
    - 24paperwings November 1, 2011, 11:43 am
    haha yea...I'm not the biggest fan of people getting married so young. You need time to figure yourself out as a person before making a commitment like that. Just my two cents though. I just think that you shouldn't have to change who you are/who you hang out with for someone else so long as it's not a destructive influence on others.
    - NittanyLion85 November 1, 2011, 12:29 pm
  • 4

    do you want to continuesly LIE to your gf about the other girl and live like you are suffocated?
    or would you rather let her go and try things out with your "friend"
    do NOT date them both :S you will end up losing them and every other girl in your highschool :s
    make a choice
    lying or release!

  • 3

    Secretly date them both.

    scumbagsteve - gah wtf do i doooooo?

  • 3

    sounds like a girl that will say she's on the pill when she's really not to trick you into getting her pregnant, then say goodbye to half your income

    • Goronix
    • November 1, 2011, 12:43 pm
  • 2

    bros b4 hoes. also means girl bros

    i agree!
    - MissRandom November 1, 2011, 8:38 am
    That's my quote :)
    - gemie89 November 1, 2011, 1:21 pm
    i know. it was just so good i had to use it.
    - castlewarsisawsome November 1, 2011, 5:49 pm
    Spread the word people need to know :)
    - gemie89 November 1, 2011, 10:26 pm
    but wouldnt it be more of sis rather then bro?
    - castlewarsisawsome November 1, 2011, 11:08 pm
    No bros can be both bros and shebros
    - gemie89 November 2, 2011, 12:40 am
    i see your point, but i usely call me shebros sis
    - castlewarsisawsome November 2, 2011, 7:38 am
  • 2

    Well, you only live once. Do you want to live your life with that "what if" question in your head? "What if I would have decided to build a relationship with 'girl #2'? How would my life be different?" Be true to your feeling. Oppression in a relationship isn't good form. If she can't let you b

    goooooogle :D hello
    btw.. i agree
    - MissRandom November 1, 2011, 2:07 pm
    MissRandom :] Hi!
    - CallMeGoogle November 1, 2011, 10:02 pm
    its me snappels .. we share the same bday LOL
    - MissRandom November 2, 2011, 6:49 am
    That we do! And I knew it was you. I think I read it on here somewhere that you changed your account.
    - CallMeGoogle November 2, 2011, 9:31 am
  • 2

    From what you've said, this girl comes off as ridiculously possessive and controlling. (Especially for a 2 week relationship) High school or not, these relationships NEVER end well. If she's talking about marriage in high school, her priorities are highly questionable. If you've next to nothing in common with her, why waste your time trying to learn something you already know?

    All of that aside, the fact that you had to ask this question tells me that on some level, you've already made your decision. If you care about this second girl more, this question has answered itself.

  • 2

    Look, if it you break up with girl #1 and ask out girl #2 the worst thing that can happen is her breaking up with you. If you two like each other as much as you say you do, then just go for it. It's either that or risk being stuck in the friend zone and believe me that's not somewhere you want to be.

    • Xanderh
    • November 1, 2011, 9:43 am
  • 1

    right heres what you do
    im not sure if you've heard of this but im going to say it anyway
    schrodingers cat

  • 1

    Grow the fuck up thats what you need to do

  • 1

    this is somewhat like the situation i am in...
    my best friend for 7 years now had a gf and i hung out with him and her and me n his gf kinda fell for eachother, she broke up with him for me (she was also unhappy) and he forgave me for it, but like 3 weeks ago she said she doesnt want me to hang out with him anymore, like at all, and i said i won't to make her happy, and then just last weekend my grandpa passed, and he left his house to my parents, and guess who happens to live across the street, her ex aka basically my brother, and i have been hanging out with him lately...and i really dont know what to do, i have the felling my gf is going to be so pissed at me and not talk to me for a week at the least...

    and i would go for the the "friend"
    it seems like you would be happier with her

    she could leave you for another guy anytime she likes! just like she did to him!
    i don't get it! i thought you guys had this rule,, bros before ****
    and i thought girls were confusing!
    - MissRandom November 1, 2011, 8:38 am
    ik the whole bro code...but she came to me, and i didnt sell him ive been hanging out with him...behind her back...
    - kermit6427 November 1, 2011, 8:41 am
    you are worried she will stop talking to you if she knew (for a week!)
    let me tell you this
    since when do girls FORCE their bfs to stop hanging out with GUYS!
    put your pants back on and tell her you want to hang out with him and she has to deal with it!
    cuz it is the RIGHT thing to do
    what will she think of you if she realized that you stopped seeing your best friend for 7 years for a girl you barely know for a couple of months!
    tell her its the right thing. and you are not the type of guy to sell his friend out
    she doesn't need to know you are hiding it
    she needs to know that you will start doing it again and you DON'T want to hide it!
    i have no clue why i am sticking my nose in this... but its there for ppl to comment on and i did
    i hope you understand where i'm coming from
    friends? XD
    - MissRandom November 1, 2011, 8:46 am
    Holy hell, A woman who UNDERSTANDS AND ACCEPTS the concept of bros before hoes?

    You have no idea how rare that is.
    I have met plenty of girls who say that they are alright with it, but they always end up getting pissed off because you are hanging out with people she doesn't like anyway
    - drakengard85 November 1, 2011, 12:03 pm
    i respect my fiance a lot.. and i know him pretty well to know what kind of people he hangs out with..
    but i'll tell you something.. if a guy i know leaves his friend (specially a close friend) cuz a girl told him! .. then that person loses my respect
    and since when do guys listen to bossy girls! lol
    Edit: no offence kermit.. i told you what i said before because i care :)
    - MissRandom November 1, 2011, 2:06 pm
    we don't =) At least guys that have a pair
    - NittanyLion85 November 1, 2011, 2:09 pm
  • 1

    Take option # 2. She sounds less psycho.

    • Ertrov
    • November 1, 2011, 10:43 pm
    i must concur with the mental evaluation...
    - MIKYTEY November 1, 2011, 11:03 pm
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